The most memorable people in your life will be those who loved you when you didn't love yourself. – Unknown
The following excerpts are from “We Are Not Meant to Live Alone” by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. - Dr Paul is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?"
….I have also heard that the number one killer in our society is not cancer or heart disease – it is loneliness. This is not a surprise to me, as loneliness is often the underlying feeling that so many people attempt to avoid with their various addictions.
The feeling of loneliness may be so painful that you turn to various addictions to avoid the feeling. Many people do not even know that they are feeling lonely because they respond addictively so quickly. They grab the food, the drink, the drug, the cigarette, turn on the TV, get busy, or get angry before they are aware of having a feeling, and then wonder why they cannot stop their addictions. Often people become addicted to a dysfunctional relationship and cannot leave for fear of the loneliness and disconnection. When people are not connected with themselves and their spiritual guidance, they may have a connection addiction, constantly pulling on others for the connection they so desperately need.
Without caring family, community, or friends to turn to, we lack the connection with others that we all need. However, in order to feel connected with others, we first need to be connected with ourselves.
Do not discount the power and importance of inner and relationship connection. If you want optimal health, you need to take the action in your own behalf to seek out loving and caring people and to do the inner work necessary to become a loving and caring person with yourself and with others.
To find more of Dr Paul's philosophy, check out - http://www.buzzle.com/articles/we-are-not-meant-to-live-alone.html
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